Lessons Learned in My First Two Months of Full-Time Self-Employment

I can’t even believe it’s been TWO WHOLE MONTHS since I had my last day of “work!”

Honestly, it has gone by in a flash. The best part of my training as an anthropologist is my ability to watch, notice, and identify patterns; pair this with my awareness of myself and my environment, and I have really turned into a very fast learner. I realized recently that so many things from over the past 3 years, including the Year of Courage, the Year of Trust, and the Year of Nourish and all little sub-lessons learned in these years, has led me to such a keen sense of awareness. This is one of my biggest triumphs, and it has been helping me grow so much.

Let me first say that my very first month working from home, I got almost NOTHING done. You are reading that correctly. NOTHING. I thought I would dive right into productivity, but that was simply not the case. I definitely took my time in getting things done for that first month, but it was definitely what I needed.

So, what are some of the things I’ve learned? Let’s dive in:

  1. My sleep patterns were actually very normal: I found my sleeping sweet spot, and it’s going to bed between midnight and one, and waking up between 8:30 and 9:30 every day. This is the same sleep pattern I had while working at my part time job, so this was an easy transition.
  2. Unexpected effects of being at home all the time: More dishes to do, more toilet paper used, more garbage produced, need for higher internet speeds, need for more clearly defined work/personal space. Since my hubby and I both work from home, we really needed to figure out the best place for my office, and the best place for his studio. We had to move some things around, but things seem to be good for now.
  3. How my menstrual cycle affects EVERYTHING: I thought I was having an productivity crisis, and tried something called the Pomodoro method where you set a timer for 25 minutes, and you don’t stop working until the timer dings. Then you take a short break. But I realized that I was attempting to force myself to work during a rather unproductive time of my menstrual cycle. During ovulation, I am all feminine. I am in my prime energy flow. I sway with my desires and moods like the wind. My mind can’t focus, but I am open and receptive to my creativity. I have come up with a LOT of ideas during my ovulation time, they just flow into me. And they flow into me because I am IN my flow. Once I am done with ovulation, and I enter into the luteal phase of my cycle, I enter the “get shit done” portion of my cycle, and I stay here until I’m in the final parts of my menstrual phase. During this time, it’s like a light switch is turned on to my structured productivity. I harness this energy and work almost for 2 weeks straight, all day, so I don’t have to during ovulation. This is the single most incredible thing I have uncovered about my energy, and I know this is true for all women.
  4. Identity crisis: When you can finally be who you are, you realize how much you have NOT been presenting yourself to the world. Now that I am able to dress however I want, do whatever I want, say whatever I want, and BE myself, I had to figure out who that is. I still don’t know how to fully show up as myself, but I am working on it. I will write more about this process soon.
  5. We are still working on purging our home of stuff. We have accumulated soooo much stuff, most of which is just crap that we have just failed to remove. There are so many un-needed and un-necessary items, but it takes time and energy to get rid of. Since I have been putting so much energy on my photography company these days, I have little get shit done energy for anything else.
  6. Now that I know I can make substantial amounts of money, I need to learn how to be a better steward of that money…ie, I need to start saving!

Whew! So, that’s a lot of stuff to learn in just a few short months, and this is just the tip of the iceberg. I am delving more deeply into my identity and my cyclic feminine nature, which I know will be so beautifully transformational, for myself and for the women I am meant to serve in the future.

Did any of these things surprise you or resonate with you? Let me know!


La Rae

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