In case you’re easily grossed out, I want to forewarn you that this post is going to be a little graphic. Specifically, if periods and the word vagina gross you out, you might want to leave.
This post, in my opinion, should be read by everyone, especially if you are a woman, if you’re a mom, if you’re a dad, if you have a wife, if you are a human. Because “periods” honestly have a bad rep and their place in society needs to be re-evaluated.
I titled this post “Reclaiming My Moontime,” but it could also be called “What I wish I had learned about my period before the age of 26,” or even “Learning how to honor my womanhood and human experience as a woman.”
You’re still here?? Great. I’m glad you are, because this is an insanely important topic.
Let me paint a picture for you.
A young, impressionable girl is sitting down to go to the bathroom when she sees that she is bleeding profusely from her vagina. She has heard about this thing called a “period” before from a movie shown at school, but she was certainly not prepared for today to be the day that it would happen to her. Her mother was still at work and her dad was home. She is sitting on the toilet, and doesn’t know what to do other than yell at her dad for help.
How is dad going to know what to do? How will he react?
In my case, I don’t honestly remember exactly how my dad reacted to my plight, but I can say it wasn’t very good.
We as women are taught that “periods,” which I now call my Moontime, are an annoyance and really unpleasant. We are taught to dread this time each month and are taught to shove a plug into our vaginas (the word tampon is actually French for “plug”). We are taught to medicate ourselves when this awful occurrence happens to us because it causes too much pain.
Honestly, this is how I thought for 14 years, and this is just what we’re taught. The only way to change, though, is to talk about it.
I have been on my path of self-discovery for about 5 years. In this time, I have read books, meditated, taken multiple classes, hired a life coach, and let life be my coach. I have been working on learning how to be myself, but also learning how to honor my woman hood. While this might not be the case for every woman, my favorite part of being a woman is the fact that I myself can create life from my own body. A woman’s gift to bear children is what make us unique, and honestly, I think it’s the coolest fucking thing ever. I don’t have any children yet, so my most treasured part of being a woman is my monthly Moontime, which I now value highly.
The Lunar cycle is 28 days; so is a menstrual cycle. In ancient times before humans had lights after sunset, women ovulated with the full moon and menstruated on the new moon. How powerful is that? Our bodies naturally align to nature, which is another honor in itself.
Besides being really cool, this also meant that women were able to naturally tell when they were most fertile, which meant they had power. But that power began to diminish through the rise of patriarchy when leaders sought to gain power over women through calling menstruation disgusting and shaming women during their Moontime.
Note: I am not attempting to sounds anti-patriarchy or anti-man. I am just giving my personal opinions and feelings.
But this is perhaps why our society began to hate Moontime and why a woman’s power has been taken away.
Honestly, I never learned from my mother and father that my monthly Moontime was an honor. I never learned that it was a gift to me as a woman. BUT THIS IS WHAT I WANT FOR MY DAUGHTER. When my daughter experiences her first Moontime, I want to throw her a celebration. I want it to be an occasion to buy her a new dress, cook her favorite meal, give her gifts, dance around under the moonlight. Welcome to womanhood, my little darling. I am here to celebrate your initiation into the club. Wouldn’t that change our society significantly? I can’t wait for Moontime celebrations to be a real thing that families do.
Another reason I am writing this post is to tell you all about a product that I firmly and absolutely believe in: the menstrual cup.
Please, don’t close the tab. Continue reading and just hear me out.
During my journey to honoring my womanhood, I learned about the menstrual cup. I really don’t remember how I heard about it, but I just decided to make the investment and switch from tampons and haven’t looked back since.
What is a menstrual cup, you ask, and why should you switch?
Well, it’s just a little cup that you put into your vagina and it catches your menstrual blood. The cup is made of silicon, which does no damage to your vagina, unlike tampons, which tears your vaginal lining, dries it out, and can even begin to rot inside of you. Furthermore, most tampons contain BPA, dyes, or other chemicals that I certainly don’t want inside me. Other reasons to switch to a menstrual cup include not having to dump it out for 12 whole hours, less leaks, no smells, no chaffing from wet strings, and you can still wear sexy underwear. I mean for real, ugly “period underwear” is reason enough to try out a menstrual cup. For environmental reasons, one woman with an average menstrual cycle can use almost 10,000 tampons in her life. That’s a LOT OF TAMPONS to have in a landfill. With a menstrual cup, you drastically decrease your affect on the environment. This might not matter to every woman, but this was a huge factor in my own personal decision.
With proper care, some menstrual cup companies state that the cup will last for 10 years. That also saves a lot of money!
There are many different menstrual cups, and I haven’t tried them all, but here is a comparison photo.
The types of cups I have personally heard the most about are the Diva Cup and the Moon Cup. Most cups have two sizes: one for before childbirth and one for after.
Personally, I use the Diva Cup. The total beginning investment was about $40, which included buying the cup and buying the wash for the cup. I’ve also been using the cup for about 6 months and LOVE IT for all of the reasons I have mentioned previously. I know that this simply change has allowed me to be a better steward of my female body and of the Earth.
So in conclusion, if you are a woman, please begin to take a look at how you view your womanhood and female body. Start listening to her and honoring her. If you are a mother of a girl, please consider the things I have talked about in this post. First of all, your daughter will learn from you: if you honor your body, she will learn to honor hers. Also be a champion for her womanhood. When she is blessed with her first Moontime, celebrate it.
If you are a man, take a look at how you are treating your female partner or friends when they are having their Moontime. Do you call it gross? Do you act differently around them? Do you deny her sex? If you are also the father of a daughter, again, please watch what you say to her and how you act around her. Your daughters’ worth will be affected by your reactions to her new blessing, and your sons will learn how to treat the women in their lives.
Also, please consider trying out a menstrual cup.
Good job! You made it through the whole post! Leave me a comment if you’ve tried or used a menstrual cup, or how you can be a champion for womanhood in your own life. 🙂